I had an interesting experience this week. I had lunch with a momma with a nine-month-old girl and a two-year-old girl in tow. When she found out I had twins, her reaction was, “I wonder which is harder? Having twins, or having kids 16 months apart? Right now I have one that can’t walk yet, and one that’s running all over everywhere!”
I just smiled and grunted noncommittally. I know it’s got to be incredibly challenging to have two babies in diapers, no matter their ages. They are needy little people that have to be fed, changed, dressed…they can’t do much for themselves, so the big people in their lives need to do it all for them. But I will say this.
When you have two babies to get changed, dressed and moved to the kitchen every morning, I think it would be easier if one of them could understand simple verbal commands and could walk there on her own while you carry the other.
When you want to put both children in the baby pool at the same time by yourself, I imagine it would be easier if there were a safe way to get the pool set up, filled with water, both children changed and into the pool by yourself. Like, for instance, if one of them were old enough to walk outside with you and get into the pool while you watched, as opposed to needing to be carried out and lowered in. Times two.
I imagine feedings would be easier when it doesn’t mean holding two babies and two bottles at the same time.
I imagine naptimes are easier when you don’t have two babies who both need to be put down at the same time, possibly needing soothing or encouragement to go to sleep.
I imagine even getting in the car is easier, when you don’t have to carry them out one at a time to strap them in their carseats.
Bathtime? Probably easier when one of them can sit up really well and even sit back down when told.
I wouldn’t trade my girls for all the Cheerios in the western hemisphere, but I would be lying if I said there weren’t times when I wish they had been born 16 months apart. Of course, then I couldn’t take really cute pictures like this: